Christmas…It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year! Or Is It?

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It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
With the kids jingle belling
And everyone telling you “Be of good cheer”
It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

 

We all know and love the classic Christmas song “It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year”.  But for some…it’s not.  Sadly, it can be  the most difficult time of the year. It can feel so lonely…like being on the outside, looking in.

The Christmas season is filled with happy songs, lots of parties, tons of shopping, gift giving, gift receiving, children out of school, photos of smiling families in cute Santa hats, and so much more. But one thing that we all talk about is how stressful the Christmas season can be. And why is that? When it’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, we should be happy.

But for those that suffer from anxiety or depression, Christmas can be the most difficult, paralyzing time of the year.

Think about it. The pressure to go out in public, socialize at parties, tackle the malls, give the perfect gift, put up picture-perfect decorations, spend tons of much money and so much more. Yikes! Kind of overwhelming for all of us, let alone those who are suffering. And add anxiety into the mix, and people can literally freeze.

So, what can we do to help the people in our lives that are at a low period to enjoy and celebrate Christmas?

There is a great article called Navigating The Holidays When You Have Depression. This article can help those who don’t suffer to better understand their loved ones, as well. Check it out.

But mostly, just love them without judgement. They may already feel guilty that their anxiety is in overdrive because they aren’t happy about the holidays, or are saying no to the tenth party, or can’t find the “perfect” gift. Love them anyways.

Don’t pressure them to do something you want them to do. Let them guide you. Yes, offer suggestions to get outside, go for walks, volunteer to help in the community. For sure these things are helpful. But if they can’t, that’s ok.

And this is a great time to really put the focus back on what Christmas is all about. It’s not really about the decorating, shopping, baking, parties. It’s about the celebration of the birth of Christ. Help your loved ones (and yourself) to focus on God’s unconditional love and hope.

This is what we all need most of all. Not the multitude of gifts. God’s gift of love and hope.

When I was in my deepest depression 5 years ago, it was during December. Ugh. I remember that feeling of being overwhelmed, anxious, guilty, helpless. Even on Christmas Day, my husband and kids went to his parents house to celebrate Christmas, and I just couldn’t go. Yes, he was disappointed, but he understood. I spent the day curled up by the Christmas tree, reading books. Not my ideal way of spending Christmas, especially since I’m a people person, but it was what I needed. But I also remember that during this time was when Christmas carols started to mean so much more than just songs. They had true meaning. And that was wonderful.

Christmas. Yes, it is the most wonderful time of the year. But remember to be gentle and have grace for those (or yourself) that it may not be the most wonderful time of the year.

Have you experience depression or anxiety over the holidays? How have you dealt with it? I would love to hear!

Romas 15:12-13

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

 

John 3:16
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

 

 

 

 

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6 Replies to “Christmas…It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year! Or Is It?”

  1. Once again excellent 😘😘😘 you are a truly gifted saint with a great story to share and a real good …Good..all husband 😇😇😇😇

    Enjoy your day …Stuart F

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  2. How lovely that you would take the time to express these thoughts to those who need a word of encouragement. have just sent an email to a friend whose husband died last Jan. and my heart aches for her. Am attaching the song around which our Christmas Eve service is based this year. Did I tell you we will leave the service early to catch a late flight to Winnipeg? With much love and prayer for a truly blessed season for you and all the family. Gwen

  3. Thank you for taking the time to say what so many people need to hear!! I so appreciate you! Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story! Have a blessed Christmas with your family!

    1. I’m glad this post resonated with you, Denise. I just know how hard it is for people to “Be of good cheer” when on the inside they are hurting.
      Hope you’ve had a wonderful Christmas, too!

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