The body is sensitive. It registers every thought and feeling. Be tender with it. ~ Brendan O’Regan
Sex. It’s one of those words that makes kids giggle, makes parents of teens cringe causes some people to smile and brings up bad memories for others. It’s a word that some people ban from their homes, and others make part of their every day conversations. Sex – a very powerful word.
As I teen, I made mistakes. We all do. As teenagers, we push the boundaries, test the waters and start to pull away from parents as we prepare to be on our own in the big, wide world. I made big mistakes, ones that I truly regret.
Before I became a Christian, I laughed at young couples who got married. I thought they were just getting married in order to have sex, and in some cases maybe that was true. What I didn’t realize was, that waiting to have sex until marriage is incredibly admirable, God-loving and wonderful. It is truly respectful of each other and of God’s grand design.
In our society, sex is everywhere. Young girls are taught to look sexy, teens are pressured into sexual encounters, and sex is not really taken seriously. Yet, our bodies were made for so much more. Our bodies were created to be respected. Everything that happens to our bodies, affects our minds, deeply. A small act as a young teenager may never, ever leave your mind. Yes, you will heal from it and you will move on, but it will always be there.
But why wait? Don’t you want to discover if you’re sexually compatible before you commit to a life time of marriage? Here are my own personal thoughts:
1. Trust – If you wait until marriage, you will have a trust for each other like nothing you’ve ever experienced. Making love to your husband is the most intimate act you will ever share. When you fully trust your partner, you will enjoy that the sexual experience as it was designed.
2. No Regrets – Plain and simple, you will have no sexual regrets if you wait until marriage.
3. No Comparison – Having multiple sexual partners will make you unknowingly compare your husband/wife to others. He/she will feel he has to live up to unrealistic expectations, and you may never be fully satisfied. Being able to explore each other, with trust and love, is a truly beautiful thing.
4. Emotional Maturity – As a teen, we are just not ready emotionally to make the decisions that will affect our lives. Yes, teens think they know everything. Heck, I was a teen once and I thought I was invincible! But as parents, it’s our duty to help educate and protect our children through all stages of development. When one waits until marriage, you are more emotionally mature to make better decisions.
5. God Honouring – For those that aren’t believers, this is where you may scoff and that’s ok. I did. But now I know that God designed us and created us. It’s His desire for us to honour Him with our bodies.
Because of this blog and my openness in sharing my struggles, I have been privileged to have some very intimate, private conversations with some wonderful people. One theme that keeps coming up over and over, is sexual regrets. Yes, some of them were not by choice. God’s healing and strength is necessary to move beyond that pain. But if it’s your choice, only you can make it. Remember you are the only one who can chose to be in control of your body. You. No one else.
Do you agree or disagree that one should wait to have sex until marriage?
Note: Once again, I will clarify that these are only my opinions. I do not judge others for opinions or choices that may not be similar. I hope to receive the same respect from you.
1 Corinthians 6:18 NLT
Run from sexual sin. No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.